Relationship Counselling and Marriage Counselling

How we relate and communicate within our relationship forms the basis for all interaction with each other.  It also maps the future path for our children and their experience of what it means to be in a relationship.  If you know you wish your relationship or marriage to be different, or feel that it could be more than it is, counselling may be of help.  You may be looking for solutions to pain, conflict and confusion or you may be yearning for new love, joy and hope.

When working with you as a couple on relationship and communication issues I work on two levels – initially as a teacher of structured dialogues  to create a flow of communication and assure both of you leave the dialogue having been heard,  validated  and honoured by the other.  For some couples this may be the first experience of actually sharing their world with their partner while also being heard.  This process creates hope for the future and the ability to move on to a deeper connection.  It is here that I work with you together and individually to foster new cognitive and emotional awareness to create empathy and acceptance of the self and other which enables you to form new and meaningful bonds with each other.

The goal for many couples to begin relationship counselling and therapy is to bring about change and transformation in their lives.  This may consist of new learning and rediscovery to help you to:

• Learn  practical and respectful communication and listening skills
• Understand the impact of childhood and other life experiences upon your relationship
• Rediscover the joy and passion of being together
• Break free from old destructive communication and behaviour patterns
• Develop deep compassion for each other
• Create spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy
• Create a safe and nurturing environment for your children
• Create a new foundation for your relationship

Most of our work will involve both of you seeing me together, but we may also make use of  private sessions where I work with each of you individually.  This can be particularly useful for personal issues that are holding you back within the relationship.  Frequently these are old pains connected to childhood issues or previous relationships.